“Ultimately, happiness comes down to choosing between the discomfort of becoming aware of your mental afflictions and the discomfort of being ruled by them.” Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche
As described by Rick Hanson and Richard Mendius in their book Buddha’s Brain:
Suffering is not abstract or conceptual. It’s embodied: you feel it in your body, and it proceeds through bodily mechanisms. Understanding the physical machinery of suffering helps us see it increasingly as an impersonal condition - unpleasant to be sure, but not worth getting upset about, which just brings more suffering and reinforcement of old negative patterns of behavior.